A practical self-help book guiding readers towards a happy and harmonious breakup or divorce. Written by the relationship expert who coined the term 'conscious uncoupling', made famous by Gwyneth Paltrow.

And then they lived...
We enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope and excitement - we've found 'the one', so we plan and forge our happily-ever-afters together. But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undone; they don't work out. Commonly we view this as a personal failure rather than an opportunity. And instead of honouring what we once meant to each other, we hoard bitterness and anger, stewing in shame and resentment. That's natural: we're almost biologically primed to respond this way. Yet there is another path to the end of a relationship - one filled with mutual respect, kindness, and deep caring. Katherine Woodward Thomas's ground-breaking work in this method of Conscious Uncoupling provides the valuable skills and tools for you to travel that path. Written with empathy and compassion, this timely book provides comfort and solace, as well as practical advice on ways to move forward, for anyone going through a break up.


'Conscious Uncoupling is a kind and compassionate guide on how to overcome break up grief and use it to transform and enrich your entire life. The process Katherine Woodward Thomas provides will not only make your heart whole again, but will also ensure a positive, hopeful future for all involved'. - John Gray, New York Times bestselling author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus


Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT, is author of the bestseller Calling in 'The One', a licensed marriage and family therapist, co-creator of the Calling in 'The One' and Feminine Power online courses and coaches' trainings, and creator of the Conscious Uncoupling online course and certified coaches' training. Katherine has worked with over 200,000 people from all around the world in her virtual learning communities and has helped thousands recover from the pain of a break up.

In 2014 a media storm erupted when Gwyneth Paltrow announced her separation from Chris Martin, describing it as a harmonious and mutual 'conscious uncoupling' and the term entered the world's vocabulary overnight. Coined and created by relationship expert Katherine Woodward Thomas, the expression 'conscious uncoupling' has become synonymous with a divorce where both partners accept that they each played a role in the breakup and, in particular, are looking to co-parent in a functional and healthy way in the future.

The Conscious Uncoupling 5 Step Process is designed to support separating couples through the thorny terrain of a breakup, helping them to consciously complete a relationship in ways that leave all involved whole, healthy and well, and optimistic about future relationships.

CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING offers a new paradigm for divorcing couples and is set to become a classic in the genre.